Category: Leaning In Partner
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The Leaning In Spouse Must be a Champion for the Marriage
If you are the leaning in spouse – the one who wants to pursue couples therapy in order to reconcile the marriage – you MUST be prepared to be what we call the champion for the marriage. If you have both agreed to pursue discernment counseling, your preparation for the process includes a consistent focus…
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Advice for the leaning in spouse
In the midst of the crisis experienced by the leaning in spouse, we offer some important ~though difficult~ advice: Rather than expressing your own feelings/beliefs/desires, try to focus on understanding your partner’s experience. This is NOT easy! Read below a summary (provided by the Doherty Family Institute) of what we know about the experience of…
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The experience of the Leaning In spouse
Your spouse has announced a desire to end your marriage and you want to make it work. You are the Leaning In spouse. Here’s some information straight from the Doherty Family Institute’s website about feelings you may be experiencing as the leaning in spouse: Unfortunately, our world is mostly filled with advice for the leaning-out…
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Explaining Discernment Counseling to my Leaning Out Spouse
If you find yourself as the leaning-in spouse, wanting to discuss discernment counseling with your partner, here are some thoughtful steps to approach the conversation: Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet and comfortable setting where both of you can talk openly without distractions. Avoid bringing up the topic during heated moments or…
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Is your marriage on the brink of divorce?
Please watch this video and then answer the quiz below. https://vimeo.com/130921512 Choose the statement below that best describes your situation. I’m done with this marriage; it’s too late now even if my spouse were to make major changes. I have mixed feelings about the divorce; sometimes I think it’s a good idea and sometimes I…
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Who to talk to – and who NOT to talk to – around a potential divorce
We’ve seen people in your shoes—a spouse announces a divorce—make a bunch of mistakes when it comes to talking with others. One mistake is to not tell anyone, often out of shame or to avoid recognizing the threat at real. The result is isolation and stewing in one’s juices. A second mistake is to tell…
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Why Freaking Out Doesn’t Help
The journey towards saving your marriage is not easy. We offer you solid support through the following six tips. They may go against your instincts right now, but rest assured, your best chance is NOT adding more emotion and drama into the situation. (Provided by the Doherty Family Institute.) (Originally published by Doherty Relatoinship Institute…