Day: February 27, 2024
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Outcomes
The Doherty Family Institute did a study that looked at the outcome of 100 consecutively seen discernment counseling cases. Here’s what they found. BUT WAIT! Some people see this and think … “I’m not going to do discernment counseling if it is only 47% effective!” While we love it when couples choose to work toward…
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Discernment Counseling Sessions: What do they look like?
Each session includes a combination of joint (couple) time and individual time with each spouse. The individual conversations are critical for each spouse to explore their own contributions to the problems in the marriage. After each individual conversation, the partner forms (with help from the discernment counselor) a summary of their conversation. With these summaries,…
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Who is the leaning out spouse?
The leaning out spouse is the partner who is seriously considering leaving the marriage. Often, when couples come to discernment counseling, the leaning out spouse has already announced a decision to leave. Maybe, they’ve even filed the divorce papers! Most leaning out spouses do not feel like they are acting in an impulsive way. They…