Day: February 15, 2024
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Who to talk to – and who NOT to talk to – around a potential divorce
We’ve seen people in your shoes—a spouse announces a divorce—make a bunch of mistakes when it comes to talking with others. One mistake is to not tell anyone, often out of shame or to avoid recognizing the threat at real. The result is isolation and stewing in one’s juices. A second mistake is to tell…
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A marriage isn’t over until it’s over
It’s commonly believed that when people enter the legal divorce process, they have come to accept the reality that divorce is inevitable. Even therapists and lawyers tend to assume that once divorce papers are filed, ambivalence about divorcing is over and the only task ahead is to help couples have a constructive end to their…
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Why Freaking Out Doesn’t Help
The journey towards saving your marriage is not easy. We offer you solid support through the following six tips. They may go against your instincts right now, but rest assured, your best chance is NOT adding more emotion and drama into the situation. (Provided by the Doherty Family Institute.) (Originally published by Doherty Relatoinship Institute…
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What defines cheating?
Couples can get into muddy waters when it comes to one person feeling really “off” about their spouse’s “friendship” with someone who could become a romantic partner. This can lead to a lot of fights about what is cheating. Does it have to involve physical contact? These debates don’t actually sooth anyone: the partner who…
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How to choose a Discernment Counselor
If you’ve been referred for discernment counseling and need to choose someone who will be a good fit for your needs, what should you look for? Many therapists offer discernment counseling, but these therapists come with a wide range of training and experience. If you want to be sure that the therapist has completed all…
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Which couples are good candidates for Discernment Counseling?
We often get asked about who can be seen in discernment counseling? Just married couples? Couples who are deciding whether to keep dating or break up? Unmarried couples? The answer is pretty straightforward: Discernment counseling is appropriate for any couple in a committed, “marriage-like” relationship. That said, there are some key elements needed to make…